It's not always bad, but neither is it always good. And the wrong type of strong people are scary. They are not safe. But the good type are trustworthy and protective. Astonishingly so.
The difference lies in the root (as it always does). In why.
Some strength says, "I will never be hurt."
Some says, "I choose to allow myself to hurt . . . and rise again."
Some strength says, "I will never let anyone close to me."
Some says, "I will give--and love--and care deeply . . . even when you'll never return it."
Some strength says, "I am all I need."
Some says, "I will ask for help."
Some strength says "I."
Some says "Him."
Because to be truly strong, to be soft yet strong, this is the greatest kind of strength. And the greatest kind of strength can only be gained from the One who is truly Strong.
Oh my friends, as you go into this world today, this dark and broken and angry world, have that true strength. Don't go weak, but don't put on that chain-mail strength. Just don't. It's not worth it. It's not worth the pain to yourself, or to others.
Take His cloak instead.